In some ways I really think Ramon is right, but I also understand Evrina’s point of view. People often want to help others before they take care of themselves, which is a very good, human, way to be. It doesn’t always serve well over time though. Ideally you should lean into charity after you are in a stable place in your life, but it seems like people tend to get there & then live in fear of falling back into poverty to the point that they want to wall themselves off in a safe fortress. I understand all of these feelings & I’m not 100% sure which one is the best. It’s probably some balanced mix. I’ve found that mixing stuff like this gets you the best results for the longest time. Evrina & Ramon are kind of the extremes that cancel each other out. Or maybe end up in a more stable middle ground.