2021 Stupid Sweet.
As someone who is very much a forward thinker it’s very difficult to live in the now & enjoy what’s right in front of you. It can be a very poisonous trait in a relationship. When you constantly expect the worst it’s difficult to commit fully to anything or anyone. That’s not to say that preparing for the future is bad. It’s absolutely not, but you need to be careful that you don’t will your negative vision of the future into being.
Carol… it’s cute to say that, but it actually doesn’t help… Right now, it’s time to enforce good thoughts with good words.
I think she’s about to reinforce the good thoughts with good actions….really drive that lesson home.
So to speak…
I can mostly agree with that-
if [a person] focuses so much on making things better for their future days, they can miss out on the fun + pleasurable stuff that is happening, now.
*pleasurable meaning pleasures from non-erotic things, you Philistines. ;D
The phrase HRP (Happy Relationship Paranoia) comes to mind. I first learned it from QC, but I don’t know if Jeph coined the term or not.
“The world taught me that all joy will be punished.”
Jeez, that one cut right to the bone. Much of my life has gone that way–got my college degree only to get beat down by the student loans and finding out I could have gone farther with a few certifications is just one of them.
“Sticks and stones may break my bones….but whips and chains excite me!”
They really don’t, but its a fun quote. Something I sometimes wonder about. If you had a memorable, pleasant experience of an erogenous nature somewhere or around something that smelled really bad-would you associate that smell with the experience or even become aroused by it alone? Since one tends to associate smells with memories? I certainly wouldn’t know, as pleasant experiences of such a nature are sorely lacking, odoriferous or otherwise.