If you wanted to be technical you could probably say that Nina & Ed have had dates before. It might be more accurate to think that Nina makes a distinction about what a date is that some people might not. Going for a run might well be considered a date, or spending the night in your more or less official boyfriend’s apartment. In her mind she means a sit down meal date. Fancy times. Or at least special in a way that is different than a casual time together.

I know a lot of people think differently about stuff like this. I am of the mind that both parties need to express, out loud, to each other, what a circumstance is in order to make it official. A spoken contract essentially. You can kiss someone many times, but if you don’t actually say “You are my exclusive mate.” that leaves room for shenanigins. Basically I value explicit communication of a state of being. Like, you can go on a date, but not be dating. In my opinion it’s important for both parties to know where things stand and that generally requires verbal communication. Some people might think “we had sex therefore we are dating” but that’s not the case for everyone. So you need to spell it out for the ones who need it.

Anyway, I would like to explicitly state that I need support for me work & would appreciate it if you did so via the links above. If the support can’t take the form of monetary support, or lavish gifts, I will also accept lots of public praise and attention that will draw in more support. Just to be clear about everything. XD

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